"When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man's native tongue," writes clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. in She Comes First, a straightforward, intimate, and exuberant guide to cunnilingus. Kerner first explored "the oral caress" as a way of compensating for his "sexual inadequacies," and quickly learned that women not only welcomed but often preferred "the way of the tongue," reaching orgasm more consistently than through intercourse. Kerner educates readers about the clitoris, "the powerhouse of pleasure," with 18 parts and 8,000 nerve endings (twice as many as the penis) and describes female sexual response from "foreplay" through "coreplay" to "moreplay." A large part of the book is a graphic, detailed primer on "mouth music," including best positions, step-by-step techniques (illustrated), and tips for tongue and fingers. How long should this last? Until the woman has an orgasm or many, says Kerner, and "melts blissfully before your eyes." "The vast majority of women complain about guys who don't like to do it, don't know how to do it, or simply don't do it nearly enough," writes Kerner. This book will change that. Women: Buy it for your partner! --Joan Price


From Publishers Weekly
Dispelling the widely held myth of genital penetration as the apogee of sexual pleasure, Kerner, who holds a doctorate in clinical sexology, offers this witty, well-researched manual for "consistently leading women to orgasm" through cunnilingus. Loaded with practical anatomical information (the clitoris has 18 distinct parts, and more nerve fibers than any other part of the human body) and graphic line drawings, the book also touches on the less mechanical, more psychological aspects of oral sex, including the three assurances every woman needs from her lover to feel comfortable: (1) "you enjoy it as much as she does"; (2) "there's no rush"; and (3) "Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful: it all emanates from the same beautiful essence." Since studies show the average woman takes about 20 minutes to reach her first orgasm during a typical sex session, while men take a mere four minutes, Kerner advises men to delay their own climax and make oral sex "coreplay" ("the substantive phase in which sexual tension builds, culminates and then releases itself through the female orgasm"), instead of foreplay. Breaking down six stages of coreplay, from the "first kiss" to orgasm, Kerner speaks to both beginners and more seasoned lovers. His candor concerning his own bout with sexual dysfunction adds a compassionate tone and credibility to this decidedly pro-female methodology. Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.


Playgirl
An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!



You've all heard about ‘lunch at the Y.' Well, this book will make it a feeding frenzy.


Cindy Chupack, writer/executive producer of Sex and the City
Required reading for all men who are dating and all women who are wondering why they're not satisfied.


Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine
Take note, guys. This book is your secret weapon.


Cindy Chupack, writer/executive producer of Sex and the City
"Required reading for all men who are dating and all women who are wondering why they’re not satisfied."


Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine
"Take note, guys. This book is your secret weapon."


Cake
"Here comes a book that puts men in their places - smack dab in between women’s legs!"


Playgirl
"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!"


Cindy Chupack, writer/executive producer of Sex and the City
"Required reading for all men who are dating and all women who are wondering why they're not satisfied."


Book Description
As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue. Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay -- simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response. Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and illustrated step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual. She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."


From the Inside Flap
"Men, while still lame, can no longer hide behind the old excuse of ignorance when it comes to pleasuring a woman--the facts are all here in this complete guide." --Dr Drew Pinsky, co-host of Loveline "An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" --Playgirl "This well-written, hands-on, fluff-free book puts the 'big penis=big orgasm' theory to rest once and for all. No man or woman should be without it." ---Michele Weiner-Davis, M.S.W., author of The Sex-Starved Marriage "You've all heard about 'lunch at the Y.' Well, this book will make it a feeding frenzy." --Sue Johanson, host of Oxygen's Talk Sex

FROM THE PUBLISHER

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay -- simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and illustrated step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

FROM THE CRITICS

Jane - Jauretsi Saizarbitoria

Take note, guys. This book is your secret weapon.

Playgirl

An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!

Publishers Weekly

Dispelling the widely held myth of genital penetration as the apogee of sexual pleasure, Kerner, who holds a doctorate in clinical sexology, offers this witty, well-researched manual for "consistently leading women to orgasm" through cunnilingus. Loaded with practical anatomical information (the clitoris has 18 distinct parts, and more nerve fibers than any other part of the human body) and graphic line drawings, the book also touches on the less mechanical, more psychological aspects of oral sex, including the three assurances every woman needs from her lover to feel comfortable: (1) "you enjoy it as much as she does"; (2) "there's no rush"; and (3) "Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful: it all emanates from the same beautiful essence." Since studies show the average woman takes about 20 minutes to reach her first orgasm during a typical sex session, while men take a mere four minutes, Kerner advises men to delay their own climax and make oral sex "coreplay" ("the substantive phase in which sexual tension builds, culminates and then releases itself through the female orgasm"), instead of foreplay. Breaking down six stages of coreplay, from the "first kiss" to orgasm, Kerner speaks to both beginners and more seasoned lovers. His candor concerning his own bout with sexual dysfunction adds a compassionate tone and credibility to this decidedly pro-female methodology. Agent, Richard Abate. (June) Forecast: Kerner works as a sex therapist in New York, and will do local media. Regan is arranging book and t-shirt giveaways and features with Jane magazine, and a radio satellite tour. It seems the publisher is betting on women to buy the book and give it to their partners. Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING

You've all heard about ￯﾿ﾽlunch at the Y.' Well, this book will make it a feeding frenzy.  — Sue Johanson