George C. Kandle, Pastoral Psychologist
"This book, by women who have done their homework on grief, offers a companion for others still recuperating. Further, it introduces us to so many others, both famous and ordinary, who can hold a hand and comfort a soul through grief's wilderness. Outstanding reference of where to seek other help."


Bradley Evans, MD,Cardiologist, Providence, Portland
"A well written book about a very difficult subject. This book will be extremely useful for those going through these difficult times."


E. Charles Douville, MD, Cardiothoracic Surgeon, Providence Portland
"As one who deals with unexpected death, I am so pleased to find a truly valuable reference for those souls who are blindsided by such misery...The book is thoughtful, thorough and intensely meaningful. Up until now, Rabbi Kushner's reference WHY BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE has been my mainstay in such circumstances; I will add this book to my recommended list."


Helen Fitzgerald, author of The Greiving Child, The Mourning Handbook and The Grieving Teen
"I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye is a book that is easily related to by anyone struggling to cope with the sudden death of a loved one. I highly recommend this book, not only to the bereaved, but to friends and counselors as well. If you want to experience what the pain of grief is like, to better understand what the bereaved are going through, read this book."


Charlotte A. Tomaino, PhD, Neuropsychologist
"The authors have captured a means of discussing, exploring, elucidating a very painful life passage in real life, down to earth language and experience. Many thanks to Pam and Brook for...the generosity in sharing their discoveries to further our healing."


Book Description
Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member. The list of high visibility disasters, human suffering and sudden loss is long and will continue to grow. From TWA Flight 800 to Egypt Air, from Oklahoma City to Columbine, daily we face incomprehensible loss. Outside the publicized tragedies there are many families and individuals that are suffering behind closed doors in our neighborhoods, in our own homes, in hospital waiting rooms. Now for those who face the challenges of sudden death, there is a hand to hold. Both authors lost a loved one tragically. Noel's brother was stung by a bee and died instantly at age 27. Blair's husband died of a brain aneurysm. As they struggled to rebuild they found little printed material. I Wasn't Ready to Say Good-bye is the first book to devote all its pages to the unique challenges of sudden loss, written by two women who have walked the path. They cover such difficult topics as the first few we! eks, suicide, death of a child, when a body isn't found, children and grief, funerals and rituals, physical effects, homicide, depression and many others.


About the Author
Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D. is a psychotherapist and pastoral counselor in private practice in Hawthorne, NY. She is the Director of the Divorce Resource Network, a columnist for Single Living magazine and a Contributing Editor for Divorce Magazine. She has appeared on many radio and television shows including Geraldo. Brook Noel is the author of two other highly-acclaimed books, Back to Basics: 101 Ideas for Strengthening Our Children and Our Families and The Single Parent Resource. Currently, she writes as a columnist for Mom.Com and is the Editor-in-Chief of SingleParents: The Lifestyle Magazine for Today's Single Parent. Noel regularly conducts workshops on parenting and writing and has taught or lectures at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center, The Los Angeles Times and many others. She has been featured, mentioned or appeared in the pages of Woman's World, Healthy Kids, Parent's Journal and other. Recently she has been asked to audition for a new parenting show to air on the Fox Health Network.